I want to
turn to the words of the ultimate original thinker, history’s greatest
social entrepreneur, and as a Catholic, my personal Lord and Savior,
Jesus. Here’s what he said, as recorded in the Gospel of Saint Matthew,
chapter 5, verse 43-45: You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your
neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I tell you, love your enemies and
pray for those who persecute you, that you may be children of your
Father in heaven.”
Love your enemies! Now that is
thinking differently. It changed the world starting 2,000 years ago,
and it is as subversive and counterintuitive today as it was then. But
the devil’s in the details. How do we do it in a country and world
roiled by political hatred and differences that we can’t seem to bridge?
First, we need to make it personal. I remember when it became personal for me.
I
give about 150 speeches a year and talk to all kinds of audiences:
conservative, progressive, believers, atheists and everything in
between. I was speaking one afternoon some years ago to a large group of
politically conservative activists. Arriving early to the event, I
looked at the program and realized I was the only non-politician on the
program.
At
first I thought, “This is a mistake.” But then I remembered that there
are no mistakes —only opportunities— and started thinking about what I
could say that would be completely different than the politicians. The
crowd was really fired up; the politicians were getting huge amounts of
applause. When it was my turn to speak, in the middle of my speech,
here’s more or less what I said:
“My
friends, you’ve heard a lot today that you’ve agreed with —and well
you should. You’ve also heard a lot about the other side —political
liberals— and how they are wrong. But I want to ask you to remember
something: Political liberals are not stupid, and they’re not evil. They
are simply Americans who disagree with you about public policy. And if
you want to persuade them —which should be your goal— remember that no
one has ever been insulted into agreement. You can only persuade with
love.”
It was not an applause line.
After
the speech, a woman in the audience came up to me, and she was clearly
none too happy with my comments. “You’re wrong,” she told me. "Liberals are stupid and evil.”
At
that moment, my thoughts went to … Seattle. That’s my hometown. While
my own politics are conservative, Seattle is arguably the most
politically liberal place in the United States. My father was a college
professor; my mother was an artist. Professors and artists in Seattle …
what do you think their politics were?
That
lady after my speech wasn’t trying to hurt me. But when she said that
liberals are stupid and evil, she was talking about my parents. I may
have disagreed with my parents politically, but I can tell you they were
neither stupid nor evil. They were good, Christian people, who raised
me to follow Jesus. They also taught me to think for myself —which I
did, at great inconvenience to them.
Political
polarization was personal for me that day, and I want to be personal to
you, too. So let me ask you a question: How many of you love someone
with whom you disagree politically?
Are you comfortable hearing someone on your own side insult that person?
This
reminds me of a lesson my father taught me, about moral courage. In a
free society where you don’t fear being locked up for our opinions, true
moral courage isn’t standing up to the people with whom you disagree.
It’s standing up to the people with whom you agree —on behalf of those with whom you disagree. Are you strong enough to do that? That, I believe, is one way we can live up to Jesus’ teaching to love our enemies.